Metaphor: Balloons

Posted: June 26th, 2010 | Author: Jay Her | Filed under: "Ah Hah's" and "Uh Oh's" | No Comments »

I was doing a self guided session on removing a mental block of mine… and it gave me quite a weird metaphor, but for whatever reason, it made sense to me and my situation in life.  Therefore, I thought I’d share this internal dialogue with all of you, too.

I began seeing a balloon in front of me in this self-hypnosis process.

I ask myself, “Why a balloon? What does this have to do with what is keeping me from being able to move forward and do more things in life?”

Mind, “You think you know what they represent! So! Give me your answer for why it’s here.”

Self, “It represents all that I am, what I want, and what I can do.  I want it to grow as big as it can be… and to be able to do that I need to put air into it, breath life into it.”

Mind, “Duh, even a child knows that you need to put air into it to allow it to expand and grow.”

Self, “Oh… so what if I don’t have the strength to be able to give it enough air and life for it to expand and grow?”

Mind, “What would the child do in that situation?”

Self, “Ask for help from an adult… from someone who has done it enough times before and has the strength and knowledge to be able to fully breathe enough air into it… while, knowing when to stop so they don’t get light-headed.”

Mind, “But what if it blows up or pop because sometimes I don’t know and I put too much air into it?”

Self, “Yes! What if??? If there were too much air put into it and it blows up, what will I do then?”

Mind, “What WILL you do THEN??”

Self, “I can’t let that happen, I must be careful how much air I put into it… I must only put a little bit of air to prevent it from popping.”

Mind, “Hmmm… isn’t your main goal to see it expand and grow??”

Self, “Yes! but I don’t want it to pop! So I’d rather just give it a little air and so I can have it expand and grow a little, but not have it so big that it pops.”

Mind, “What about having someone else help you put air into it?”

Self, “I’ve tried that before and sometimes they are able to blow it up to a good size for me… though, a lot of the times they would blow it to the point where the slightest thing I do to it would make it pop! and I don’t like that.”

Mind, “Can you remember if in those times where it was blown to a size that was soo big it popped with the slightest of handling… were you bothering them to do something for you when they really wanted to do something else?”

Self, “Yes.”

Mind, “What do happens when a person is focused on something else, but is constantly asked to do other things that they’d rather not do???”

Self, “They simply spend some time on it to get it done, but they are only getting it done so that they can do the other things that they’d rather be doing… therefore, they will not be giving me the quality of work that I need.”

Mind, “Do you realize that when that happens, your balloon is either over or under pressured, and once they’re done with it, they can care less what happens to it afterward?”

Self, “oh…”

Mind, “Do you realize that if that is the case, than you have just learned three things… (1) who not to ask for help, (2) how not to do a project, (3) you were probably being too pushy in wanting the Job DONE.”

Self, “Dang…”

Mind, “Sometimes the best thing to do is to wait until you see someone who can blow awesome balloons and they enjoy helping other people blow balloons too…”

Self, “True true…”

Mind, “And when that happens, pay attention to how they are doing it, how much air goes into different kind of balloons.”

Self, “But Now What???”

Mind, “Now what???”

Self, “Now that they’re finished blowing up the balloon for me and I know a little more about how to blow these kind of balloons… what do I do now???”

Mind, “Why do you ask that?”

Self, “Well, they were here… they were helping me… we were getting to know each other… I like their company… and now once they finish with my balloon, they will be off doing something else… if I pop my balloon maybe they’ll be back to blow it up for me?”

Mind, “Now, child, that’s not what balloons are made for… and that’s not how we get other people’s attention.”

Self, “Then how else can we do it???”

Mind, “Different people have different jobs in the world and in your life.  You have the person who loves to help people blow up balloons, but what if they HATE playing with balloons?”

Self, “True true…”

Mind, “Can’t you find someone else that will enjoy playing with a nicely blown balloon?”

Self, “Yes, I guess I can… I’ll have to put in a lot of effort into it.”

Mind, “And you know what?”

“What?”

“Once you really get the grasp on how to make the perfect balloon this size, you can give it to someone else and start working on an even BIGGER Balloon! Have you even thought about that???”

“Oh, NO! So, you mean I don’t have to keep this balloon forever!?”

“Again, child, we grow old and everything changes… then there comes a time when one thing has to pass on to someone else or to become something else… and those possibilities are things that we all must prepare for… not to hope it happens or to manifest it into reality, but to be prepared enough to be able to respond to it in a productive manner (rather than a chaotic mess).

“Seek to understand the purpose of what has been given to us and don’t let it be small and weak simply because of a fear of ours, but instead seek out the passionately motivated individuals who can help us let it expand its full capacity so we can really do with it what it’s made to do.  And once we are there… again, seek out those passionately motivated individuals who will enjoy helping us play with the end product we have, until it is ready to retire. Then again, seeking out those individuals to help us make that happen too.

“You are soo close to making it big and beginning playing with your balloon, instead of just simply blowing it… don’t let air out, just because of your fear of it possibly popping, but seek out those that will know how much air to safely put into it, so you can start playing with it.

“Preparation is almost over now, just understand that this activity is made to be played with more than one person, if you really want to make it FUN!  So, find those that want to play in this stage of the game and SHARE THE GAME… SHARE THE JOY… SHARE THE LOSSES… SHARE THE LIFE…

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