The “ABSOLUTE” No-No

Have you ever realized that some of our most structured, thought out, and specific plans are the ones that fall through the cracks and never get done??? WHY IS THAT???? I asked… Have you ever tried to put a bundle of stick together using a steal band??? Well, I haven’t, so let me know if you have… but if I was to imagine that, it would go something like this. I would want to figure out how big around this bundle of stick is going to be and then I would have to build that steal band to fit just tight enough around the bundle so that it’s not too tight or too loose. Perfect!! In my mind, this bundle of stick would stay like this forever and ever and EVER and then we will live Happily Ever After, THE END! Right? What do you mean, “No!?” Let’s say, with my luck, it rains and the sticks I’ve gathered happen to be very easy in absorbing water… or the sticks dry up and then start to fall apart… or one of the sticks gets pulled out by a stick eating monster… Now what!??? Now it’s either too tight of a bundle of wet sticks, a withering away bundle, or a lose  bundling just waiting to slip out it’s steal band. Now what did I do wrong there? You probably have an answer for me. Here’s my real life example. I have been working on my health. Eating better, fun exercises, good social life, etc… I was content with working out at home and to my surprise with only about 30 minutes doing random things like jump roping, free weights, pilates, push ups, sit ups, etc… I was able to go from a size 36 to a size 33. I can honestly say I was proud of myself.  Then I decided that I might need to step it up and start working out at a gym too. And so that’s exactly what I did. My rationale, was there were a lot of equipments that I couldn’t afford financially nor space-wise at home. Within 3 weeks after I started my gym membership, I stopped working out at home and started working out just at the gym. I mean, they got everything I got going at home and more! This is THE PLACE to do what I needed to do, right? Am I wrong?? I didn’t think so. LOL. So my exercise equipments started moving into the corner of the house and my exercise time moved into jogging to the gym (10 minutes), working out at the gym (30 minutes), swimming at the gym (30 – 60 minutes), then jogging back (10 minutes). Now my schedule got a little flustered and I stopped going to the gym regularly but never considered starting back up the exercises that I was doing at home. Now once I’ve gotten the gym membership, my mindset shifted from Exercising when I can to simply just exercising at the gym. And when I wasn’t able to make it to the gym, I wasn’t even able to consciously think of doing the exercises that I have been doing for months prior at home. All that was going through my mind, was… well, I guess I’m just too busy to go to the gym, so let me just find something else to do. Well, that something else could have been a little 15 minute exercise at home, but nope, it was let’s watch an episode of this show, or cook something, or go online, etc… for whatever reason the thought...

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My Life’s Path… May not be right for You.

I wonder if I’m scared to move closer to a goal of mine because in doing so I would have to limit some of my life’s pleasures.  I’ve always been scared that I would be negatively judging others who are not along the same path as me. The question that I’ve always thought that I would be asking is, “If I can do it, why can’t You?” I’m scared that if I am able to accomplish something, that I might expect the same from all of those that I meet.  That I might begin to forget that we all are different, and that we each come with different expertise and different life barriers.  I know that right now, this is all simply a possibility and a thought or fear of mine, but for whatever reason it is scaring me enough to have been keeping me from moving forward with my goals. I asked this question to a friend of mine and what he mentioned to me helped give me perspective on the situation… He  said, “I think I can get quite jealous at others that they are able to indulge in the life’s pleasures that I now limit myself.” So is it that I want better things for people so much (that I get angry) or is it simply that I am jealous at what I can’t do and they still are able to do (that I get angry)… that it is all an internal dialogue and thought that needs to happen and has nothing to do with the world around me.  If I am truly following a path of my own, and truly understand that everyone’s path differs however little or big… then can’t I simply acknowledge their life’s path and be happy for what they are able to do in life. My anger is Mine to feel, and may have nothing to do with what others pleasure themselves with. Their journey is a journey that is as true as their own reality and it should have very little affect on mine, unless it’s taking away to giving to mine. I’ve chosen this path, why should I expect others to do the same? My path is not the right one for everyone, and every other’s path is the perfect trail in which they’ve began following and I should hope and pray that they find Love, Peace, Pleasure, Accomplishments, and Health in the path that they are moving towards. Have a Blessed Life! and Know that I DO Support Your Life’s Path, where ever great places it may take You. I hope for You: Love, Please, Pleasure, Prosperity, Health, Well-being, Ease of Journey, and Accomplishments of Your Desires that will meet the needs of all of those around You! And for those of You who might be wondering what I’m referring to… this stemmed off of me working towards losing weight. But I think it will now have a profound effect on many other aspects of my life too.  Thank You, I Love You, and I hope You Love those around You too. Be Well and Be Good At It! ^__^ Jay...

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Metaphor: Balloons

I was doing a self guided session on removing a mental block of mine… and it gave me quite a weird metaphor, but for whatever reason, it made sense to me and my situation in life.  Therefore, I thought I’d share this internal dialogue with all of you, too. I began seeing a balloon in front of me in this self-hypnosis process. I ask myself, “Why a balloon? What does this have to do with what is keeping me from being able to move forward and do more things in life?” Mind, “You think you know what they represent! So! Give me your answer for why it’s here.” Self, “It represents all that I am, what I want, and what I can do.  I want it to grow as big as it can be… and to be able to do that I need to put air into it, breath life into it.” Mind, “Duh, even a child knows that you need to put air into it to allow it to expand and grow.” Self, “Oh… so what if I don’t have the strength to be able to give it enough air and life for it to expand and grow?” Mind, “What would the child do in that situation?” Self, “Ask for help from an adult… from someone who has done it enough times before and has the strength and knowledge to be able to fully breathe enough air into it… while, knowing when to stop so they don’t get light-headed.” Mind, “But what if it blows up or pop because sometimes I don’t know and I put too much air into it?” Self, “Yes! What if??? If there were too much air put into it and it blows up, what will I do then?” Mind, “What WILL you do THEN??” Self, “I can’t let that happen, I must be careful how much air I put into it… I must only put a little bit of air to prevent it from popping.” Mind, “Hmmm… isn’t your main goal to see it expand and grow??” Self, “Yes! but I don’t want it to pop! So I’d rather just give it a little air and so I can have it expand and grow a little, but not have it so big that it pops.” Mind, “What about having someone else help you put air into it?” Self, “I’ve tried that before and sometimes they are able to blow it up to a good size for me… though, a lot of the times they would blow it to the point where the slightest thing I do to it would make it pop! and I don’t like that.” Mind, “Can you remember if in those times where it was blown to a size that was soo big it popped with the slightest of handling… were you bothering them to do something for you when they really wanted to do something else?” Self, “Yes.” Mind, “What do happens when a person is focused on something else, but is constantly asked to do other things that they’d rather not do???” Self, “They simply spend some time on it to get it done, but they are only getting it done so that they can do the other things that they’d rather be doing… therefore, they will not be giving me the quality of work that I need.” Mind, “Do you realize that when that happens, your balloon is either over or under pressured, and once they’re done with it, they can care less what happens to it afterward?” Self, “oh…” Mind, “Do you realize that if that...

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